Preface 1 (4)
Introduction 5 (8)
The Object of the Game 13 (4)
Four Ground Rules 17 (18)
You Are Who You Say You Are
One Prize Doesn't Fit All
Work Isn't a Sorority
You're Always a Mother, Daughter, Wife, or
Mistress
Preparing to Play 35 (20)
Learn the Playing Field
Check Out the Team Culture
Get Picked for the Team
Wear the Right Uniform
Set the Right Goal
How to Keep Score 55 (6)
Playing the Game: Fourteen Basic Rules for 61 (58)
Success
Make a Request
Speak Out
Speak Up
Toot Your Own Horn
Don't Expect to Make Friends
Accept Uncertainty
Take a Risk
Be an Imposter
Think Small
Don't Anguish
Follow the Team Leader
Don't Assume Responsibility With...out
Authority
Sit at the Table
Laugh
Six Things Men Can Do At Work that Women Can't 119(16)
They Can Cry. You Can't
They Can Have Sex. You Can't
They Can Fidget. You Can't
They Can Yell. You Can't
They Can Have Bad Manners. You Can't
They Can Be Ugly. You Can't
He Hears, She Hears: Ten Genderbender 135(22)
Vocabulary Words
Yes (Exactly What It Means)
No (Not What It Means)
Hope (The Worst Word in the Game)
Guilt (It Means Trouble)
Sorry (It's a Sorry Word)
Aggressive (It's Not Assertive)
Fight (It's Not a Pretty Word)
Game (a.k.a.: Fun)
Glass Ceiling (Their Phrase, Not Ours)
Future (Then and Now)
How to Enter and Exit The Game 157(16)
The Two Final Rules 173(14)
Be a Woman
Be Yourself
Acknowledgments 187